One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making darkness conscious. ~ Carl Jung
Unless we are willing to bring to awareness, acknowledge and clear the hidden and projected aspects of ourselves, we will block ourselves from a deeper and richer awareness.
Whatever we recognize in others is an aspect of ourselves; both the good and the bad. It is helpful to contemplate owning these projections while relaxing the tensions in the body and allowing all this to be okay. Everything is okay. There are certainly some beings that are much more evolved than others, and that happens with self-acceptance and openness.
Sometimes we may have an unconscious deep loathing for ourselves for our past actions which we have blocked out and repressed. Techniques that allow us to bring up and release unconscious emotions are valuable to open to a deeper and balanced awareness.
Accepting the light and dark nature of ourselves allows us to see the full spectrum of life. This openness and equanimity leads to a clear and balanced perspective. We can accept the unpleasant and unavoidable circumstances in life with the serendipitous and fortunate circumstances in life.